We’ve all done it.
January rolls in, and we quietly promise ourselves we’ll finally shrink back into the body we had five (or 15) years ago. We dig out the old workout logs, dust off the numbers we used to lift and declare war on every soft place December left behind.
And by February, most of us are exhausted, irritable and mysteriously heavier than when we started.
Here’s the truth nobody says out loud: chasing “smaller” is the fastest way to feel broken.
Chasing “stronger,” on the other hand, is how women heal.
Smaller requires restriction, perfection and a daily reckoning with the scale. Stronger requires food, rest and patience. Smaller steals your sleep and your joy. Stronger gives them back, plus interest.
Your body doesn’t want to be punished into an old dress size. It wants to be trusted to carry you through the life you’re actually living. The groceries, the kids, the suitcases, the spontaneous dance parties, the years ahead that will ask more of you, not less.
When we train for strength and resilience instead of thinness and yesterday’s PRs, something wild happens. We eat enough to recover. We sleep instead of doing two-a-days. We choose weights that make us feel powerful on the last rep instead of destroyed. Our hormones calm down. Our bones get denser. Our moods stabilize. And yes, very often, our bodies change shape — but this time, as a side effect of being well, not a requirement for being worthy.
Stronger doesn’t care what you weighed in 2019.
Stronger doesn’t gasp when the jeans don’t button after the holidays.
Stronger asks only one question every day: “Did I move and feed this body in a way that makes tomorrow easier?”
That’s it.
So this year, let the scale gather dust. Let the old lifting logs stay closed. Pick up something heavy a few times per week, eat protein like it’s your job, sleep like it’s non-negotiable and walk outside whenever the sun dares to show up.
Make 2026 the year you stop trying to crawl back into an old version of yourself and start building the strongest, most resilient version instead.
Your body has never once needed to be smaller to be magnificent.
It just needed permission to be strong.
Bri Edwards is a holistic health coach at Healthy Foundations in Dubuque.
